Co-Dependency and Obsession

 I Love Her, But She Don't Love Me

Love Is A Mess

 

Have you ever loved a woman too much and been so miserable at same time that your own life was actually falling apart,and there seemed to be nothing you could do about it? If you can not get her off your mind and it is controlling your emotions, if you are nervous, you lack motivation, and all you want to do sometimes is sleep, you may well be involved in a CO-DEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP.

If fact, your life may have come to a screeching halt be because you have become so caught up in her problems that your only purpose now is taking care of her. She may treat you like dirt, and even cheat on you, but still you cannot leave her. If you know that she is out of control, and now you too are only holding on by a slim thread,Then it should be obvious That you too have a very real problem.

Don Spears
Living Without Love

How Old Is Too Old

Life In A Nut-shell

"I don't want to be an old Mess"

 I've been asked recently "how long do you want to live?'' Good Question! Let me say this "When I can't take care of myself I think "THAT'S A WRAP."  I don't want to be a burden to love ones, because of  my declined  Mental and Physical faculties. Being a Senior Citizen is a testament of representing the "AGE OF TIME." To be self-sufficient and fundamentally functional is another matter. I'm Inclined to believe the best times in our lives represent our youth driven mind-set. Friends have told me "I'll like to live to be a 100." I will be fine living until I'm in my 70's. What can I do when I reach 70? Good Question! Let's see if I can quantify the significance of getting older.

1. The Grand Kids
2. Receive Social Security
3. Sit On the Porch
4. Asking your kids to run errands
5. An Adult Nursery (Being an Elderly Child) Paying someone to take care of you
6. (No Sex) Still trying to understand !
7. Family. Who will make sure your in the right Nursing Home

The Cold Reality is that you rely on FAMILY to take care of you. I hope that AGE finds a medium to benefit your senior years in life.


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Soft (HONEY-DO) Men

My Man Is A Soft Certified "DO-BOY"

"Is He Man Enough"

Before men can get themselves together, they've go to get themselves together. Sure, hem may wash his Hot-looking car every Saturday, sit religiously glued to Monday night football on television week after week, fish in the spring, hunt in the winter and even play basketball with the fellows on Thursday nights, but he may still be just one more soft and mushy, honey-do "HOMOGENZIZED MAN." His voice is deep and his tone commanding as he orders his five year old daughter to put her toys away, but he barely raises an eyebrow when his wife casually says that she and her girl friends are going out of town for the weekend. For her he has neither bark nor bite, and he is just one more dull and boring "apple pie kind of guy."

"Nobody owns anybody else." he explains. She (His wife) is a grown woman. She can come and go as she pleases and she does just that. In fact, it is almost as if she has switched places with him. He baby sits, cooks, washes the dishes, mops, the floor and supervises the housework while she is out taking care of more important business, hers. He has no problem with her constant male companion (friend) sitting at his kitchen table when he comes home from work, or relaxing in front of the television set while he lease to rundown to the supermarket. Its is almost as if his wife's friend is the man in their house. Even when close friends and associates begin to ask questions about seeing his wife out with the other man, he still sees no problem.

Women do not respect men who are soft. If you are that easy going and unconcerned about her comings and goings, you might as well be the one of the girls, and that's exactly how she begins to see you more or less. Instead of setting a strong example that the family may follow, she overtakes you and begins to set the tone of your relationship. As far as she is concerned you are hopeless and helpless and you might as well be invisible. "Sometimes men tend to forget that if you make a door mat of yourself someone will walk on you."

D Spears
Living Without Love

Several drivers decline invite to White House due to scheduling

Fri Sep 02 11:46am EDT

Several drivers decline invite to White House due to scheduling

By Jay Busbee

The news arrived at the bottom of a press release touting NASCAR's impending audience with President Barack Obama. Within hours, the story of who wouldn't be visiting the White House far outshone the story of those who would.
Jimmie Johnson and other members of the 2010 Chase for the Cup will be visiting the White House on Wednesday afternoon. However, the release indicated that five drivers — Greg Biffle, Kurt Busch, Carl Edwards, Kevin Harvick and Tony Stewart — will not be attending due to what the press release called "schedule conflicts." (Kurt Busch later indicated that he never had any intention of missing the event; it's not certain how his name ended up on the initial release.)
Naturally, since this involves the White House, the issue instantly turned political: were the drivers making a statement on Obama by not attending? What could possibly be more important than a meeting with the president? Do they have legitimate scheduling conflicts? Before any of the drivers spoke on the record about the issue, speculation ran wild among both NASCAR fandom and other drivers, and the politics threatened to drown any rational discussion of the matter.
"IMO... regardless of political views, when POTUS sends an invite and wants to honor you at the White House, you accept. #respect," Jimmie Johnson wrote on Twitter.
"The presidency deserves respect and we are all Americans. I will be there!"
Johnson clarified later, and Burton retweeted the comment, that his response was not aimed at his fellow drivers, but at fans critical of him accepting the invitation. The political element of this — much of NASCAR's fan base leans in the opposite direction to the current occupant of the White House — obviously runs deep enough to carve divisions between drivers and their fans.
Other drivers have missed the event in the past — Kyle Busch in 2010, for instance — but the sheer number of drivers skipping this event has made it newsworthy. Each of the drivers addressed the issue on Friday afternoon, and each clarified his own position in different ways.
Kevin Harvick: "This time of year, there's a lot going on and most everything that we do is scheduled months in advance. I've been to the White House before, and it's an honor just to go the White House and be in the Oval Office. … I understand the honor and things, just with everything we have going right now, there's just no way possible to reschedule the things we got going next week." He declined to be more specific, saying that it's not public business.
Greg Biffle: Committed to a major 3M sponsor event in Minnesota, Biffle tried to adjust his schedule but could not: "I called [3M] and talked to them about the invitation, and this was very important to them. The function is designed around me and they really can't have it if I can't go. Unfortunately, the date conflicts with the invitation." Biffle noted that there is no political component to his decision; he has a photo of himself shaking hands with Obama hanging in his home, and he said he's "disgusted" by people who suggest that he "rejected" the invitation.
Kurt Busch: "I will be at the White House ... Who would turn down the opportunity?" Busch indicated that he had to adjust his 2012 photo shoot to accommodate the visit, and was not certain how his name was included on the initial press release.
Carl Edwards: Declined public comment on the issue, telling Yahoo! Sports through a spokesman that he had personal commitments. However, Edwards' bona fides with the Obama administration are not in doubt, as he's a member of the President's Council on Fitness.
Tony Stewart: "We have an obligation we have to fulfill. I've enjoyed every trip I've that I've been invited ... There's a lot of people who would like the opportunity. If I could have rescheduled, I would be there in a heartbeat." He didn't specify the obligation.

"I don't think it's fair to the guys who said they could go, or the guys who said they couldn't go, to make it political," Burton said late Friday. "If the president of the United states invited NASCAR to the White House to honor NASCAR , that is an honor whether you agree with policy or not ... you can have respect for the presidency and still disagree with it. Ten years ago, after 9/11, this country was unified, this country was together. Today, we're talking why somebody is or isn't going to the White House. And we wonder why the country's in trouble. We're blaming the people in Washington. Maybe we need to look in the damn mirror."

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AIDS & BLACK HOLLYWOOD"

 "AIDS & BLACK HOLLYWOOD"

The Panache Report

We reported last week that an black actor infected with HIV was sleeping with women without protection despite his medical condition.  If you listened to Wendy Williams (in 2006), she gave additional details on the HIV-positive rapper.   'He doesn't let anyone drink behind him and sores cover his private parts that's why he always turns off the lights before sex.'

Several years ago, an AIDS infected celebrity made the announcement, "The public would be shocked at how many people in Hollywood are infected with this virus."

I can actually think of a dozen off the top of my head:  An Latino hearthrob (male) two R&B singers (male) who were once involved, an former white sex symbol, considered a hunk, etc.

What surprises me, some of these groupies will practice unprotected sex because the man is famous (star struck) or they want to get pregnant.   I talked to a groupie last night, she has had bareback sex with several famous rappers, her excuse, 'They pay me more for bareback.'   A stripper recently told me, I dated a R&B singer, he told me he loved me, the next time we had sex, he said, if you love me too, you wouldn't insist on a condom.   She relented. She had also discounted the bi-sexual rumors regarding this R&B singer (mentioned above) she is now HIV-positive.   When she informed him, incredibly, although he infected her, he showed no remorse and hung-up on her.   She would sue but he has fallen on hard times, he has no money.

Some of these celebrities get infected at downlow parties, doing sex tape activity or at Hollywood orgies.   Due to the 'AIDS cocktail' they show no outward symptoms and continue to look healthy.

Herpes is also rampant in Black Hollywood.   A black director, a legendary soul singer and an NBA superstar are all infected with the virus.   The director has infected more than a few women and has quietly settled out of court with them.

Single women 'may' actually be safer than married women in regard to AIDS because a lot of single women demand men wear condoms prior to sex whereas a married women is not going to ask her husband (who may be cheating on her) to wear a condom because 'they are married' and that might violate the trust.

We need to get away from the "superman" mentality and the "invincible" mentality.  AIDS is here and it's no joke.   Nothing should be worth your life, even love.   My advice:  Before becoming intimate with your partner, both of you should go and get tested, if he or she declines, that should raise a red flag and you should break off the relationship.

Even if the results are negative, continue to use condoms as an added precaution.

Wake up people! 

You have numerous people out there who are "intentionally infecting" others with the AIDS virus and they just don't care.

There are other great stories at The Pananche Report 

http://panachereport.com/index.html

Professional Gold Digger

"PROFESSIONAL GOLD DIGGER?"

More NBA Mess

According to the nohardtimes.com website: Vaso Shinas, directly above with Paul Pierce, (rumored to be a professional gold digger) claimed she was Boston Celtic Paul Pierce's girlfriend, Shinas charged $95,000.00 on Paul's American Express Card. Paul filed a police report disputing the charges, denying Vaso was his girl claiming he'd only met her once. Investigators found that Paul not only knew this Shinas, he'd also purchased round trip airline tickets, limos and court side seats for her before.
They even found pictures of Shinas and LA Clipper Shaun Livingston. She's allegedly stolen from Reggie Bush, Al Harrington, and Tracy McGrady among others. She tried to get close to Allen Iverson but he's to smart for that. Everyone in LA knows all about her schemes and she has a lot of people working with her.

This woman is allegedly so notorious and scandalous in NBA circles that NBA security is alerted when she's spotted at an game.

Venus Williams Battles Sjögren's Syndrome

Tennis ace Venus Williams pulled out of the US Open yesterday due to a battle with her toughest opponent yet, an energy-zapping autoimmunue disease that has left her so weak that she can barely raise her arms. “I enjoyed playing my first match here, and wish I could continue but right now I am unable to," Williams said in a statement, reported by the Associated Press. "I am thankful I finally have a diagnosis and am now focused on getting better and returning to the court soon."
The seven-time Grand Slam champion has been diagnosed with Sjögren's syndrome. Up to four million Americans are living with this chronic condition, which can spark extreme fatigue, joint pain, and increased risk for developing lymphoma, a form of cancer, or other serious complications. Like many people with Sjögren's, Williams suffered from symptoms for years without knowing what was wrong, but hopes that the treatments she’s now receiving will take effect within three to six months. Here’s a look at Sjögren's syndrome and what it might mean for the 31-year-old tennis ace.
Follow these seven tips to manage your chronic pain.
What is Sjögren's syndrome? Sjögren's syndrome (pronounced SHOW-grins) is one of the most prevalent autoimmune diseases. It’s a chronic condition in which the person’s white blood cells attack the body’s moisture-producing glands. The syndrome often strikes in tandem with other autoimmune conditions, including rheumatoid arthritis and lupus (a disease marked by chronic inflammation of organs and a butterfly rash across the nose).
What are the symptoms? The two classic hallmarks of Sjögren's syndrome are dry eyes that feel itchy or gritty, as if there’s sand in them, and a dry cottony mouth that makes it hard to swallow. Other symptoms include joint pain, swelling or stiffness, swollen salivary glands (particularly the ones behind the jaw and in front of the ears), dry nose or nosebleeds, heartburn, brain fog (trouble concentrating or remembering), tooth decay, abnormal liver function, numbness or tingling in the hands and feet, extreme fatigue, skin rashes, vaginal dryness, persistent bronchitis, pneumonia or lung disease, reports the Sjögren's Syndrome Foundation.

Silence Administered

Can You Keep Your Mouth Shut

Art of Snitching

I wonder why people are interested in other people's lives. The "self-living" should not be engaged with what others do. Working at a job should not constitute the "Snitch Brigade." Living life in fulfillment does not call for a "SNITCH SESSION."

I've noticed how people will snitch to get you in trouble. They will go "beyond the call of duty" to tell management what you are doing wrong. People can not keep their mouth's shut, because  they want to be heard. "Hearing in essence will give fortitude to  those who devote their mind to telling it's purpose"

Attorney calls L.A. arrest of ex-Tech star Crittenton ‘very odd' ShareThis

Atlanta News 10:13 p.m. Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Attorney calls L.A. arrest of ex-Tech star Crittenton ‘very odd'

By Christian Boone

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

Former Georgia Tech star basketball star Javaris Crittenton had expected to be in jail Tuesday, just not in Los Angeles.

AP Photo/FBI, AP This photo released by the FBI on Monday Aug. 29,2011 of Javaris Crittenton, age 23, of Fayetteville, Ga., who is wanted by the Atlanta Police Department on murder charges stemming from the August 19, 2011 fatal shooting of a 22-year-old woman, Julian Jones. The FBI says, Crittenton, a former NBA first-round draft choice, is believed to be in the Los Angeles area. The FBI warrant is for unlawful flight to avoid prosecution.

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Javaris Crittenton (at his draft party in 2007) was picked 19th in the first round by the LA Lakers. He was traded to Memphis as a rookie.

His attorney, Brian Steel, said he had arranged for the 23-year-old suspect, wanted in connection with the shooting death of a mother of four, to fly back to his hometown early Tuesday morning and turn himself in to Atlanta police, per their request.
But FBI agents and members of the Los Angeles Police Department joint fugitive task squad intercepted the NBA journeyman after he had checked in to board a Delta Air Lines flight to Atlanta.
"It's very odd," said Steel, who's still trying to gain information about his client's detention. Asked what happened, Steel said, "You have to ask [the FBI]."
An agency spokesman declined comment on that particular aspect of Crittenton's arrest.
Crittenton is now in the custody of the Los Angeles County sheriff and will appear Wednesday morning in Los Angeles criminal court, a spokeswoman said.
How long he remains the ward of the L.A. sheriff depends on whether he fights extradition to Atlanta, said Los Angeles County District Attorney's Office spokeswoman Jane Robison.
"If he fights it, it could be a month of two," she told the AJC. "If not, it's just a matter of how fast [Atlanta police] can come here to pick him up."
Crittenton is wanted in Atlanta for the Aug. 19 shooting of 22-year-old Julian Jones, hit by bullets apparently intended for someone she knew, Atlanta police Maj. Keith Meadows said.
Jones was walking with a group that included a teen male Crittenton believed had robbed him of a diamond watch, diamond necklace and an iPhone, valued at more than $55,000, in April. Witnesses told police the shots were fired near Jones' Macon Drive home in southwest Atlanta from a black Chevrolet Tahoe linked to the former prep standout.
"It appears Mr. Crittenton observed who he thought was the perpetrator walking down the street," Meadows said. "It so happens Miss Jones was walking down the street at the same time."
Wednesday afternoon, the APD plans to canvass the neighborhood where the shooting took place, seeking information from residents.
Steel said his client is eager to clear his name.
"He's innocent of the charges," Steel said.
Crittenton, who has a home in Fayetteville, was traded by the Los Angeles Lakers during his rookie season to the Memphis Grizzlies, who later shipped him to Washington.
While with the Wizards, the 6-foot-5 shooting guard was involved in a locker room showdown with teammate Gilbert Arenas in which the two pulled guns on each other.
Crittenton pleaded guilty in that incident and was given a year of probation on a misdemeanor gun possession charge in January 2010. The NBA also suspended him for the rest of the season.

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What Men Want and Need

 Living Without Love

Don Spears

LOVE, DEVOTION AND RESPECT, that's what men need, along with a little kindness from someone who cares for them and believes in them. Men also need to be touched and held and played with affectionately. What their fathers had with their mothers is what they want. And just what was that? Love, devotion, respect and kindness from someone who cared about him and believed in him. Men nee and want security and unconditional love they knew as a child. They also want to feel that same sense of companionship and of feeling needed.