Soft (HONEY-DO) Men

My Man Is A Soft Certified "DO-BOY"

"Is He Man Enough"

Before men can get themselves together, they've go to get themselves together. Sure, hem may wash his Hot-looking car every Saturday, sit religiously glued to Monday night football on television week after week, fish in the spring, hunt in the winter and even play basketball with the fellows on Thursday nights, but he may still be just one more soft and mushy, honey-do "HOMOGENZIZED MAN." His voice is deep and his tone commanding as he orders his five year old daughter to put her toys away, but he barely raises an eyebrow when his wife casually says that she and her girl friends are going out of town for the weekend. For her he has neither bark nor bite, and he is just one more dull and boring "apple pie kind of guy."

"Nobody owns anybody else." he explains. She (His wife) is a grown woman. She can come and go as she pleases and she does just that. In fact, it is almost as if she has switched places with him. He baby sits, cooks, washes the dishes, mops, the floor and supervises the housework while she is out taking care of more important business, hers. He has no problem with her constant male companion (friend) sitting at his kitchen table when he comes home from work, or relaxing in front of the television set while he lease to rundown to the supermarket. Its is almost as if his wife's friend is the man in their house. Even when close friends and associates begin to ask questions about seeing his wife out with the other man, he still sees no problem.

Women do not respect men who are soft. If you are that easy going and unconcerned about her comings and goings, you might as well be the one of the girls, and that's exactly how she begins to see you more or less. Instead of setting a strong example that the family may follow, she overtakes you and begins to set the tone of your relationship. As far as she is concerned you are hopeless and helpless and you might as well be invisible. "Sometimes men tend to forget that if you make a door mat of yourself someone will walk on you."

D Spears
Living Without Love